I can think back over my life and put “friends” into each of those categories. The select few that I’ve had for the majority of my life are the ones I know can be depended upon. They have shown it. Through all of my ups and downs they have stayed in my life like a palm tree that only bends with the wind but doesn’t break. My mother told me a long time ago when I was a little girl that if I could count my best friends on one hand I’d be blessed.
As children, we are quick to make friends and we are quick to label them as such. I think we tend to take that with us into adulthood. At least for me, as one that has a huge personality and extremely outgoing, I never meet a stranger. I trust too quickly and I’ve sought that approval from too many that have worn the mask of friendship but were only passing through and have hurt me in the long run. Most of the time needing me until they don’t need me anymore. My fault or theirs? Did I extend the trust too quickly or did they take advantage? It’s all a learning process. Those that claimed friendship have come into my life for a reason…..they have taught me something. Most of the time something about myself. You would think I’d learn not to get attached too quickly and trust so easily but it comes natural for me.
I can’t feel bitter about those that have not stayed. They’ve moved on or I’ve moved on for one reason or another. In each case it has made me a stronger and wiser person. And the irony in all of it is, with each tear shed over those friendships that haven’t lasted….my lifetime friends have been there to listen, cry with me, express genuine concern and compassion and never prove me wrong when I have accurately titled them “friends”.
I’m sure at one time or another I’ve also fallen into one of these three categories to someone….in the end, I know the tapestry of life with people that cross our paths are orchestrated by God and everyone has a purpose in it.
What kind of friend are you? 🙂
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.