During the fall of last year, I was experiencing turmoil in the relationship with my Mom (again). It’s a constant off and on again struggle between her and I, unfortunately. I haven’t spoken much on my Faith but I am a devout Christian and very involved in my church and close to my church family. With that being said, as if on cue from God, one morning during service I looked over the church bulletin and noticed there was a class being taught called “Making Peace with your Past”. Sounded right up my alley so I decided to check it out. I had no idea the impact this class would have on me…it was the beginning of a huge growth spurt for me emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
When I arrived to class and picked up a copy of my workbook, I read the front of it and realized this was going to be both difficult and rewarding. The front cover read:
Making Peace with your Past: Help for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families by Tim Sledge
This was a full twelve week session. Every Tuesday night at 7pm. I made it a priority to attend and do my best not to miss any classes. Boy, did I make some breakthroughs. I learned to focus on my feelings and how to manage them and heal rather than focusing on others and how they treated me. I couldn’t change them but I could work on myself.
Here is a snippet of what I learned over the 12 week course:
- Discovering Self Esteem
- Recognizing Compulsive Behavior
- Release from Shame
- Overcoming the Fear of Joy
- Help for People Who Grew Up Too Soon
- Perfectionism and Procrastination
- Healing Painful Memories
- The Advantages of a Turbulent Past
- It’s OK to be Yourself
- Forgiving the People Who Have Hurt You
- Coming to Terms with the Blessing
- Reflection and Direction
Ultimately, I learned how to face the painful feelings of my childhood and experience healing. I would highly recommend this book for anyone that can relate to the bullet points above. It was a pivotal turning point for me.
I took a follow up class on Codependency which I will post about as a follow up to this one.
There is nothing easy about digging into your feelings and past hurts. But it’s all about being a better “YOU”.
They aren’t called growing pains for nothin’! 🙂